There is always a why.
There is always the why question after the discovery of an affair, lies, or pornography.
The Know Your Why Workshop
The Know Your Why Workshop is specifically designed to help men determine their why so they never return to harmful behaviors and can provide safety for their wives.
Ever Been Here?
This wasn’t about you. How many times do I have to tell you?
That’s just it…it wasn't about me. You never think about me. You only think about yourself.
You’re right. I’m selfish. Is that what you want to hear?
No...and you’re not helping. WHY did you do this to me?
We’ve been over this. There was stress at work. The kids took all of our time. And we just drifted apart.
So, it was about me then.
Yes...No…I guess don’t know why, then.
How am I supposed to trust you won’t do it again if you don’t even know why you did it in the first place?
[silence]
[tears]
Imagine a Different Future:
Imagine this…She gets triggered and wants to revisit part of your story. And rather than:
the flush of shame
the defensive shut down
the avoidant “We’ve been over this a hundred times.”
the blame shift of “You need to forgive and get over this.”
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Rather than any of that, you lean into what your wife needs. You are free to answer her questions. You are free to see this not as an attack of you, but an opportunity to come alongside her and bring healing. You can do this! This is possible.
The Know Your Why Workshop gives you a system for looking at your past, understanding how it influences your present behaviors, and make an informed plan for your future. As you understand how your past impacts your present, you are better equipped to talk with your wife about the why question.
Past
Most people who have done any counseling or coaching have addressed their past. If this is you, that’s great! It is one thing to know the events of your past, it is another thing to identifying how your past has shaped you. When fellas simply know the events of their past, their wives tend to become frustrated. It all feels like excuses.
The Know Your Why Workshop sets a template looking at the past without becoming a victim of the past. The workshop utilizes history as launching point for change.
The Know Your Why Workshop sets a template looking at the past without becoming a victim of the past. The workshop utilizes history as launching point for change.
Present
“I don’t know why I…” If you have ever uttered these words, this workshop is for you. The Know Your Why Workshop provides a framework for figuring out why you do what you do. This understanding is essential if you are to live towards a better future.
Future
You hope the future will be different, but don’t know how to make that change. What is more, you have read the books and tried the tools that are suppose to make you a better more efficient person…and you feel like a failure all over again. Rather than reacting to whatever life throws at you, you can respond out of your best self. It doesn’t happen by accident. You’ve got to put in the time and the right kind of work.
This workshop gives tools targeted to you and your unique makeup, rather than one-size-fits-all self-help behavior modification.
To change your future, you need to see the influences of the past, the triggers of the present, and strategically plan for the future.
Stuck points in Conversations
Fellas often experience brain fog when being asked about their history. What makes it worse is she interprets his lack of communication as either avoidance or fabricating a lie. This is a terrible moment for both of them.
In order to overcome that brain fog, he needs to overcome the shame of his past. The fellas who have overcome their shame have freedom to talk about their past.
Her Different Types of Why
There are different forms of her why question. If you have not identified where her why is coming from, you will likely fight late into the night. Couple often describe this phenomena as being stuck in a cycle, missing one another, or having communication issues.
This workshop identifies key distinctions in her why questions, and equips you to address each type of why.
Ut Repellat Officiis
Est Velit In Nisi
Ut Repellat Officiis
Est Velit In Nisi
Benefits of knowing your why
As you know your why you can give her assurance you won’t hurt her this way again.
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You focus on empathy during hard conversations, rather than your own shame.
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You are empowered to live into your truest self, rather than succumbing to passivity.
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You see triggering events prior to being flooded by them.
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You will be free to talk about your past without getting defensive or going into self pity.
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Testimonials
“I felt like my life and marriage were at a dead end as I continued to abuse the trust of my wife. Your expert coaching and advice was the turning point in my life, allowing me to find the strength to right my ship, and be the husband I wish I had always been.”
A husband living as his truest self
“Nathaniel is such a refreshing blend of empathy, grace, insight, and straight shooting, he has given my wife and I something we never thought possible - a second chance! The way he can hold a man accountable without condemnation or shame yet still validate and empower a wife is a true gift. I could not recommend him more, for my wife and I he was an absolute Godsend!"
A Grateful Husband
Hi, I'm Nathaniel
Thanks for considering this workshop. I am excited for you as this has the potential to be a powerful marker in your recovery journey. I also recognize and honor the pain you have been through to get this far. Keep going! I bring years of personal and professional expertise to this workshop. I want the best for you and your relationship.
What you'll get
4 Live Online Teaching Events
A downloadable workbook to guide you
Practical tools for better communication with your spouse (even during intense conversations)
Confidence in talking about your past without shame
Opportunity to submit questions for Nathaniel to answer
Daily homework assignments
5 hours of group coaching
Dedicated Q & A time
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Apr 17, 24
May 1, 8
2025
4:15-5:30pm (Mountain)
$497
5+ hours of targeted material
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